Remember: There is no "right" or "wrong" choice. The best decision is the one that's right for your unique circumstances, health, and situation. Professional counselors can help you think through these options without any judgment.
Anonymous process - no questions asked
Baby receives immediate medical care and placement
Simplest option and completely free
Very short window to change your mind; Premanent decsision
No ability to choose adoptive parents
Allows 30-90 days after birth to change mind
Involved in choosing adoptive family
No financial cost
Potential to maintain contact with child
Anonymity is nonexistent
Legal process can be complex
Requires more time and planning
Temporary solution while addressing challenges
State provides services to help reunification
No financial cost; Chilcare is covered by the State
Requires court involvement and oversight
Strict timelines to meet requirements
Many support services available (WIC, Medicaid, childcare)
Housing assistance for families
You make all decisions for your child
Full responsibility and 24/7 commitment
Significant financial challenges: about $10k-15k+ per year
Requires stable housing and situation
Need Help Deciding?
Trained counselors are available 24/7 to talk through your options confidentially:
National Safe Haven Alliance: 1-888-510-2229
Adoption Counseling: 1-800-ADOPTION
Crisis Support: Call or text 988